Perhaps their chief foibles in relationships are jealousy, pride, and a dominating disposition, broodiness or sarcasm. A Plutonian kind of relationship will try to control others by their will and self-determination, but don' think too badly of Scorpio - they are a very loyal sign, and expect the same loyalty in return. Possessiveness may be one of their greatest demons, and in this momentary eruption of emotions the individual feels completely justified in their actions. Someone once compared a relationship with a Scorpio to being taken hostage, but if we set the shade given to the individual we actually find they make for very compelling lovers, just be prepared to feel like you’re standing naked under their gaze. Some astrologers have referred to Scorpio’s jealousy as a bad “fate “ that is met in all relationships and this is a deep rooted part of the personality that cannot be changed.
In all their relationships they become quickly enraged if the partner pays a little too much attention to anyone they would deem as a threat. The thought of losing someone they care for is a dreadful feeling for Scorpio, but there is sometimes a fine line between Scorpio’s passionate, loyal and committed nature and one that borders on obsession. They can be so obsessed to have their mate by their side and view commitment as for a lifetime, finding it difficult to let go. At its worst, Scorpio drives away those that they most love with their demanding passions and territorial nature.
Many Scorpio people have been lost and destroyed through anger, jealousy and passion. The emotional make-up of Scorpio is fixed, extremely stubborn and once set on course there is no turning back. They are very intense and emotionally deep, relying on their knack for inner psychology to work others out. Scorpio is extremely protective of a partner, but when their confidence slides, insecurity takes over – Jealousy is their first reaction. A big no-no for Scorpio and one act which is totally unforgivable in their book - is infidelity.
Scorpio can learn to trust intimate lovers, but it may take years. It is not always wise to talk about ex-lovers, or hide anything from them, and they will grill for information, leaving the other feeling terribly uncomfortable under their intense heat. Scorpio loves to dig deep, and will stop at nothing until they find the truth. Occasionally they imagine betrayals where they don’t exist, and jealousy rears its head from a dark, brooding and suspicious place. The intensity of the sign makes their jealousies and hatreds even more dangerous, and they are the only sign that has the capacity for very deep and lasting loves and hates.
“It isn’t sufficient to just say Scorpio is a jealous sign. There are many kinds of jealousy. Possessive, yes, but all water signs are possessive. But Scorpio’s pathological jealousy isn’t simply a fear of losing a loved one. We all fear that. Underneath you will find some bitter little vision of life, some black belief about the fundamental rottenness of men/women or whatever. Astrology for Lovers
Scorpio can also carry grudges to their grave:
“But I saw that kiss, and I burn with green bile jealousy. I plot ways to kill him. I sabotage his car, see him screaming as he hurtles down the freeway with his brakes cut, pumping the useless pedal and wrestling with the wheel as he crashes through the safety barrier and takes flight. I firebomb his house, stage a murder-suicide, shot him dead before Cynthia’s horrified eyes, and then take my own life. “By Kurt Von Trojan
Love is capable of stirring all that is best and all that is worst in Scorpio. If a Scorpio tries to repress this side of their nature, they may suffer emotional pangs in silence. Or they will try and force love from their partner by being hateful, mean, nasty, or violent to satisfy their deep desires.