Scorpio's intensity reaches all other areas of life and their lovemaking is completely intoxicating and hot as hell. The individual is a combination of water and fire making it an extremely steamy combination. Now, sex has often been described in the most Scorpionic way:
"I feel like I'm passing the core of my soul to someone...it’s like sharing your energy with somebody."Sex is also used as a power game, and a place to explore both the heights and the depths and it can be darkly erotic in this realm with ecstatic pleasure taking us to the very edge. Within Scorpio lies all of our secret wishes and desires and often they know how to fulfil them. A Scorpio lover can pull a partner deep into their world, and make them feel like they are the only two people left in the Universe. As heady as this all sounds, there is the other side of their personality that maintains love by control and the extreme type will eliminate everything in a partners’ life that poses a danger to the relationship.
The Scorpio understands what makes others tick and this can be fantastic when employed as the role of psychologist and healer and it is in their bones to uncover what hides beneath the surface of life. But this ability to see inside someone’s soul can be used to exert control over others, and to make this even more clear - they want to stay in the driver's seat at all times and make themselves very necessary to their mate. One of the major lessons to be learned is coming to grips with destructive passions, but on the whole they are passionate beings, self-dramatizing, and things get intense when inhabiting the same psychic space.
The temptations to probe a partner's past love affairs can become an obsession, and at the other extreme - they would rather be kept in the dark. Psyching out lovers is a gift, but they must also remember that two can play that game. When Scorpio falls in love, they are sunk, and beneath the sarcasm and the sting of the Scorpio’s tail there is a human being longing to be loved. We can never be sure with Scorpio when a black mood is going to hit, and when passionate demands are going to be made. Scorpio's revenge is usually motivated by the powerful feelings of hatred. The first motive is often to verbally or physically attack and sever the ties completely. Once wounded deeply by a lover they may never return to the house again let alone the heart.
The symbol of Scorpio love is like a black rose and it can be a dark and distinctive beauty, but it also means death, hate and revenge. It must be borne in mind that the individual wants to be loved passionately and is often like a starving soul confronting a meal, and the appetite is absolutely ravenous. In relationships, there is a 'take me, I am all yours' attitude, but it soon changes to 'you are mine and no one else can have you'. When truly in love they give everything and if betrayed it can be a devastating loss to the individual.
1. Revenge (and revenge is a dish best served cold)
2. Need for Justice and being handed out the right kind of death to justify all the deep feelings of pain they feel inside - Eye for an eye. You will feel the extent of how much I hurt, etc.
3. A powerful need for vengeance when feeling deeply wronged by someone
4. Regaining a sense a power. Scorpio needs to feel in control
5. Being Humiliated/Scorpio has an intense amount of pride
6. A gut reaction against trauma, shame, denigration and loss